Being a parent and a small business owner can be hard. It’s totally normal to feel like you’re being pulled in all directions, and it’s so easy to fall into the trap of negative thoughts and self-doubt. Today, we’re going to talk about the power of your story and your voice, and how self-discovery can help you overcome common limiting beliefs that may hold you back.
We met with Mompreneur and author of “Own Your Shift”, Holli Peel and talked about overcoming limiting beliefs. We learned how to identify and take control of 7 limiting beliefs that are holding us back.
1. Identify Your Negative Stories And Rewrite Them With The Truth
Sometimes you’ll have thoughts about yourself and your accomplishments that just aren’t true. It’s not due to a lack of self-awareness, or to anything that’s anybody’s fault; sometimes we just have these thoughts that seem to limit and make us feel stuck. When we see these thoughts and tell ourselves these negative stories, part of growing and moving forward is rewriting these thoughts with the truth.
Negative thoughts are just a part of being human– but once you are in touch with your thoughts and feelings, you’ll be able to identify those thoughts and walk them back. As you develop self-awareness, you’ll be able to stop those thoughts more quickly and replace them with something that’s more accurate.
2. Look For Proof
When you have negative thoughts, look for proof. Go digging through your own history; you might find that when you examine yourself, the negative things you believe aren’t actually true. For example, sometimes people’s first reaction to kindness or compliments is to laugh them off. Sometimes you need to practice being open and receiving good things like compliments from others to help yourself perceive your own value.
3. Learn To Identify Your Negative Thoughts
Some of our negative thoughts are so ingrained that it can be hard to uproot them. But there are ways you can find them. First, look for patterns. When somebody says something nice to you, do you find yourself shrugging it off or trying to justify your actions? It’s easy for these patterns to develop! Are you falling into traps like common limiting beliefs about money or success? If so, don’t worry; instead, reframe these thoughts and embrace them as part of the journey.
4. Write It Out
Journaling is a great tool to improve your self-awareness. The pages of a journal are a great place to ask questions and explore your thoughts and feelings. Even your negative feelings are a great guidepost. You don’t have to act on your feelings; you can always choose to act differently. But when you’re journaling, allow yourself to feel your negative emotions and then use your journal to explore them. What can these feelings teach you? Is there a pattern to them? Allow the feelings to be present and then compare them to what you know is true in your journal. You’ll be amazed at how much it helps.
5. Build Community
You need to have people in your life who are in your corner and who know your value. Having a community of people who love you and care about you is a huge part of figuring out who you are. It’s this community that will call you out when you’re tearing yourself down. These are the people who will help you see your own worth, so hold them close!
6. Take Ownership
In order to grow and build emotional intelligence, you have to take ownership. This is true for any process– if you want to see growth, you need to step up and take ownership. Think about having kids. When you have a baby, you have to decide everything. You’re in charge of sleep schedules, feeding, the diaper bag, what your plans are when you leave the house– everything! Nobody else can take charge, and the same is true for your own life.
7. Learn To Love The Journey
Not every step of your journey to self-discovery is going to be perfect. There’s going to be mess, there’s going to be imperfection, and there’s going to be things that don’t go to plan. But the thing about the journey is that it’s a process– it’s never done. Learn to embrace the imperfections of the journey, so you won’t feel like you’re trapped waiting until you get to a certain point. You must learn to enjoy the process, or you won’t be satisfied once you reach your destination; if you learn to love the process, you’ll have fun with it along the way.
If you’re a parent looking for ways to build yourself up while building your business, you should join our seven-day Rainmaker Family Challenge! Our Rainmaker families are more than just a business community; they’re a group of moms and dads just like you who are there to support each other and build their families and businesses at the same time. Join us and learn how to make it rain!
To listen to this full podcast episode, visit The Rainmaker Family Show.